Monday, December 24, 2012

From the #iCan't Files: Women Just Exist for Others, Right?

I've recently read two articles that made me twitch. Not a small twitch, a full on, "What the hell gives you the right?!?" kind of twitch.

Case Report One:

There are so many gems in this one, it's hard to pick a favorite.

-That milk, and suckling it from the mother’s breast, is the child’s entitlement. Direct access to its mother’s breast milk is, in my book, every child’s human right.

Yes, because every mother is able to breastfeed and every child is able to receive it.

-Second, all young babies need frequent feeds, usually every two to four hours throughout the day and night. You know that – surely – from the outset. Nights are difficult and new mothers are likely to feel tired because for a while they won’t be able to sleep for more than two or three hours at a stretch either. It goes with the territory of motherhood. It always has and it always will. It’s a phase which doesn’t last long though and, with sensible management, most babies will sleep through before they are six months old – both mine did so from three months. That is why it really isn’t sensible for mothers of babies under six months to be trying to do lots of other things – such as work, having a social life or appearing on TV - at the same time.

Right, because surely, every child will turn out like yours. Because asking for help is terrible and how dare you attempt to put some of your needs first, above the child. You bore the child, you must exist to serve their every fucking need.

-Actually I think that to look slim, sexy, well groomed, relaxed and not tired, when there’s a baby at home under three months old is a sign of flawed motherhood rather than anything to be proud of.

I....can't. I  just can't.

Ah, the "a man cured me of my feminism" trope. How quaint.

-When talking to a man, don't digress. "Keep it clear and direct . . . their brain processes language differently than ours do."

Insulting to men and women! Two for one on the bingo sheet!

-Never expect anything; instead win him over "by giving and giving and giving until it hurt."

Cause that doesn't bespeak domestic violence at all. Completely submitting yourself for the win apparently.

-If an alpha male cheats, let him. "I would share him if I had to."

What? So they could repopulate the earth with their magical seed? 

-Spiffy up: "Men want women to look like women, in dresses and skirts."

Guess I'm in serious trouble.

-"when men… act like men rather than like emasculated boys, you as a woman will find not only great pleasure in submitting to them but also great growth as a person."

You know, or not.

If you wish to submit to a partner or have an open relationship, that's your choice. One which is discussed between the partners and boundaries and such are laid down that benefit and respect both people.

EDIT: The cowboy and the feminist have broken up. Read more here.

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