Friday, August 28, 2015

New photos!

I spent the day at the beach with friends and got some new waves shots, including the one below!

Sunday, August 23, 2015

Sunday Snippets: Vacation

Taking a day with the husband at the beach with friends. Thank god for vacations, even mini ones.

In what fucking world is this ok!?

One Year after Michael Brown

The actual people behind Stonewall


Sarah Lee Circle Bear, a 24-year-old Native American mother of two boys, was pregnant when she died in police custody in South Dakota last month, Circle Bear’s family says....On July 5, Circle Bear was found unresponsive in her cell at the Brown County Jail in Aberdeen, South Dakota, according to reports. She allegedly cried out for help because she was suffering from excruciating abdominal pain. But, said a witness, jailers on duty told her to “knock it off” and “quit faking.”

Mx. This is awesome.

Prison stats for WOC

THIS Anxiety is a motherfucker.

Places without humans

Monday, August 10, 2015

The above passage is from The Captivated Issue of Cottage Hill, a lovely magazine that debuted this year.

As mentioned, this year has been about decluttering my life, not just possessions, but social media feeds, old files saved on my hard-drive, etc, but it has also been about quality. I make conscious decisions to put down my phone while riding in the car with my husband and just sit with him. I put my phone down to fully enjoy my bedtime routine, which involves reading from an actual book.

The author is right; it's become too easy to stage the picture or life simply for the likes. I want to actively avoid that. I want to savor the small moments, even if they aren't instagramable.

Happily, Lara Casey agrees.

Living on purpose means making intentional decisions to live out what's most important to you. It takes doing something that is completely counterintuitive when you are super busy: embracing imperfect. It means letting some things go and letting yourself make a mess. Maybe your laundry won't get done or you won't go to that networking event, but your kids will be loved on or you will have time to sit and have an undistracted dinner with your husband. Maybe you'll step outside and go to the park instead of working through lunch at your desk, feeling drained. Maybe your work will be more productive and purpose-filled because you got some fresh air. Maybe you'll finally do that thing that's been weighing on you or encourage a friend. Maybe you'll make her day : )

Busy is the enemy of peace. Busy is not productive in the big picture. Busy means life's unexpected joys and surprises can't find a way into our lives because we're moving too fast to see and experience them. I don't know about you, but I don't want to move so fast that I miss my life.

Sunday, August 9, 2015

Sunday Snippets: 29

I turned 29 yesterday. So weird to be in the last year of my 20's.

(photo credit:

No, completely not about race at all.

Family In Minivan Shot At By Police, Forced To Flee For Their Lives, Now They Are Speaking Out

LOL at floppy meatsock

Pro-'life' logic


Firefighter Tells 911 Caller To ‘Deal With It Yourself’& Hangs Up, Victim Dies

An investigation is underway after a New Mexico firefighter dismissively hung up on a caller reporting a shooting that led to the death of a local teenager.

12 Videos That Show The Difference Between What Cops Said And What Actually Happened


Student Loan Debt Is Leaving Women Broke and Vulnerable

Not surprising


A Cop Killed A White Teen And The #AllLivesMatter Crowd Said Nothing

Literal fucking garbage, this man


First, we now know that Ferrell was not just shot 12 times by Officer Kerrick, but that he was first shot four times, then began to crawl and cry in pain, in which he was shot six more times while crawling, then two more times after he stopped. How the hell is this not cold-blooded murder?

Monday, July 20, 2015

Book Review: The Beauty

"We live our lives in one place and look in every moment into another."

Jane Hirshfield's latest collection, The Beauty, highlights these moments, moments in between moments. Hirshfield is known for her sparse, simple lines and they are highlighted beautifully in this collection.

Each poem takes on a small object or moment in time. From Perspective: An Assay, the line "Likes everything just as it is, then just as it is, then just as it is." counts off seconds like a ticking clock. There was another second past and another and another.

There are such simple stanzas, but the lines force the reader to linger and digest more than what lies on the page. Some other lines included:

"Generation./Strange word: both making and passing"

"How rarely I have stopped to thank/the steady effort of the world to stay the world."

"What caused the fire, we ask, meaning, lightning, wiring, matches./How precisely and unbidden/oxygen slips itself into, between those thick words.

This delightful poet offers us the chance, in this crazed world where the phrases simplify your life and doing it all coexist, to take a literal step back, curl up in a warm chair and see the every day moments that are missed.

A wonderful new collection from an accomplished poet which deserves a home on any bookshelf.

(Photo Credit-Amazon)

Sunday, July 12, 2015

Sunday Snippets: Cicadas

One of my favorite things in the world is to hear the sound of cicadas on a hot day. THAT feels like true summer to me.

Horrifying (TW for sexual assault) Victim blaming at its finest

Whoop, there it is


23 Emotions people feel, but can’t explain

When You Kill Ten Million Africans, You Aren't Called Hilter

Truth, from this classic film I will forever hold a torch for this movie, one of my all time favorites.

Awful and fucked up

In California of all places, prison doctors have sterilized over 150 women. Why? They don’t want to have to provide welfare funding for any children they may have in the future.

The sterilization procedures cost California taxpayers $147,460 between 1997 and 2010. The doctors at the prison argue it is money well-spent.

Dr. James Heinrich, an OB-GYN at Valley State Prison for Women, said, “Over a 10-year period, that isn’t a huge amount of money compared to what you save in welfare paying for these unwanted children – as they procreated more.”

Truth about people with anxiety

I think it’s because we haven’t addressed the deeper meaning of these “sorrys.” To me, they sound like tiny acts of revolt, expressions of frustration or anger at having to ask for what should be automatic. They are employed when a situation is so clearly not our fault that we think the apology will serve as a prompt for the person who should be apologizing.

It’s a Trojan horse for genuine annoyance, a tactic left over from centuries of having to couch basic demands in palatable packages in order to get what we want. All that exhausting maneuvering is the etiquette equivalent of a vestigial tail.

I hate it every time an unneeded apology slips out of my mouth. I know that my reasons go deeper than what is mentioned in the article; I apologize because of a learned habit growing up in an abusive home. If I apologized, I was less likely to be screamed at.


We can end police brutality and racism. It is possible. To do so the Center for Popular Democracy and Policy Link partnered with protesters and street-level organizers to create a 15-point report, titled Building From the Ground Up: A Toolkit for Promoting Justice in Policing.

It includes all of the above steps as well as some other no brainers like obeying the 4th amendment and establishing a “use of force" standard.

Out in the Night Documentary

“In August of 2006, seven black lesbians from New Jersey were hanging out in the West Village of New York City when they were harassed and violently threatened by a man on the street. When they defended themselves, they were arrested and charged with attempted murder and gang assault. Four of the women — Renata Hill, Patreese Johnson, Terrain Dandrige and Venice Brown — plead not guilty, knowing they were acting in self-defense. They were convicted and given senteces ranging from 3 to 11 years. Their case became a focal point for activism supporting the women and their case, and protesting the violence, racism, misogyny and homophobia of the legal system that systematically prosecutes women for trying to save their own lives. They became known as the New Jersey Four.” - read more on Autostraddle

Monday, June 29, 2015

Adventures in Homeownership: Staycation

I took a staycation last week, partially to sleep for 11 hours straight most nights and partially to fix up some things around the house/check those items off the to-do list that had been lingering for awhile.

This is the view from our dining room. We re-arranged the couches to make the space more open. This is what the living room looked like after we moved in, not much had changed, with the exception of adding the green loveseat.

The view from our front door.

I also finally finished painting this wall. The rest of the laundry room will be white, but I wanted a nice accent wall. Also, painting in an enclosed space while maneuvering around a 14 foot tall ladder? Thank god I took gymnastics as a kid.

When they put the addition on the house, they left a drainage spot in the subfloor next to the water heater....which drains into the hvac spot under our bedroom. Geniuses, they were not. So we filled most of the hole with expanding foam, leaving space for any water overage. Once it's fully dry, we will slice off the excess and make it look a bit more eye catching than it is currently.

I also scrubbed the hell out of our bathroom and repainted the ceiling. No pictures from that because it was truly frightening.

A fun pic. The top photo is from our wedding five years ago and the bottom right pic is from our vow renewal in April. They make me smile every time I pass by them.

Sunday, June 28, 2015

Sunday Snippets: FUCK YES LOVE WINS

Woke up Friday morning to the wonderful news that #LoveWins!!!!

Quickly confirmed with former college roomie that I will be permitted to wear a tutu as her flower girl in her future nuptials.

Police brutality

17 #SeanToon911 Tweets Are the Best Response to the White McKinney Man Who Called Police

Yay Hero Cats!

Alan Rickman + Helium = Beauty

Awww, I love this

Racism? What racism?

Fuck that awful woman


This is wonderful

Finding employment after being in prison can be next to impossible.

Not only do these people have to battle the stigma of a criminal record, they are also barred from some types of jobs entirely, including those in the childcare, education and healthcare fields. It’s no wonder that so many ex-felons turn back to a life of crime just to get by; two-thirds are re-arrested within three years of their release.

But in Little Rock, Ark., one woman has given thousands of former inmates a second chance to contribute to society, local station THV11 reports.

#MorethanMarriage: Equal marriage has been a great start, let's keep the momentum going!

Iconic Pictures #Ferguson #FreeBree

Five black churches were set on fire this past week

Bad ass women