Wednesday, November 26, 2014

#Ferguson #blacklivesmatter

There are 10,000 words to say and none to say at all at the same time. America, founded by racism and it still continues to this day.

I saw the video of Mike Brown's mother sobbing at the press conference, when she heard that no one was going to held accountable for shooting her son. I saw the live feed of police hurling tear gas at people. When the fuck is this going to end? Sean Bell, Oscar Grant and countless others, the victims of racist police brutality.

This, however, gives me a small measure of hope:

Here are some other links to check out:


Monday Night


Solidarity, on a global scale

YES. THIS We have NEVER confronted the blood this country was founded on. What is past is prologue.

Also, this

From Rebecca Woolf

Verdict Summation: Between the Lines

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Sunday Snippets: Almost Thanksgiving

....And the only thing I'm excited about is napping. This year has been rough and I'm hoping the last month provides a bit of relief.

That is so cute. If someone recorded me, I'd sound a like a giraffe yodeling.

Preach  Fuck yeah

Funny but so sad

Winter truths

OMG, I want a therapy alpaca! I visited an alpaca farm last year and it was the best. They are so soft and fluffy!

UGH. Double UGH What I've said for years. Women aren't entitled to have sex unless it's for making babies in a hetero marriage. FUCK ALL OF YOU.

Completely adorable video

Aww, polite little squirrel.

I love Sleepy Hollow.  Now granted, they need to step up their game this season. But Season 1? PERFECTION. The donut holes. Yolanda. Tom Mison makes me feel things.

No, of course not, rape culture is totes imaginary. THIS BULLSHIT

Truth I know what is was like growing up in a dysfunctional household. I know that pain.Which is why I try to live every day with a smile on my face.

Goddammit, fucking white people *table flip*

Because cats

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

New Photos!

Fall is one of my favorite seasons to photograph, not only for the leaves but the sunsets are breathtaking.

More on the website!

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Sunday Snippets: Need something to read?

My latest book review, about marriage, here.

How wonderful  Beautiful. Treating people with dignity and respect isn't hard.

Awww! Otters are adorable.

Sweet kitty

OMG. Important pictures that are made of such truth.

I would love a vacation there

Love this man

I love penguins

This is repugnant

Heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time

that was the moment i realized women were the most important beings on this planet and we have to protect each other bc nobody else is going to

#ViolenceWillNotBeTolerated Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Book Review: The New I Do

"If nothing else, the dramatic changes in the marital landscape over the decades has proven that marriage can be an incredibly adaptable and inclusive institution-if it's called on to be so."

This is the bold statement which begins to sum up one of Seal Press's newest releases, "The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels". It's only a hair over 200 pages, yet it is packed with information. I underlined a phrase nearly every page and my copy is littered with post notes.

Authors Susan Pease Gadoua and Vicki Larson offer ways to reshape and redo marriage since nearly half of all contemporary marriages still end in divorce.They believe that "rather than continue to encourage people to cram themselves into an old model that isn't working for many....we want to acknowledge what's already happening and encourage you to think about new ways to marry."

New ways indeed. They offer several options: the Starter Marriage, Companionship Marriage, Parenting Marriage, Living Alone Together Marriage, Covenant Marriage, Safety Marriage and the Open Marriage. Gadoua and Larson lay out the pros and cons of each option, along with any relevant history or origins. They also make it clear that while some partnerships may end, to view the marriage as failed would be a mistake. The authors believe "marriage should be considered 'successful' by what it has accomplished, not by how long it lasts".

These choices show that there are many ways to do marriage and while your neighbor's or your best friend's marriage may not look like yours, if it works for them, who's to judge? One aspect that is highlighted throughout the book is this idea of a "real" marriage. Many people have a stereotypical idea of what a "real" marriage looks like: "Too often we are presented with the false choice between a life-long loving marriage and a lonely, un married life. But those are far from the only options." And the authors include several real life interviews from people, already adapting these marriages to their own lives.

A chapter on pre-nuptial agreements rounds out the book and it's a good place to end. One of the biggest themes of the book is about communication. Very few marriages survive broken communication and unresolved mis-understandings. The book states that "there's a huge disconnect in how people conceptualize marriage and how they act once they're in it." Pre-nuptial agreements aside, to begin to implement any of these marriage options requires a lot of communication. Even if you choose none of these marriages, opening the discussion about these options and what they offer could be beneficial to a partnership.

Marriage and the many ways it is included in peoples' lives are always being analyzed and rehashed, least of all with gay marriage becoming legal in many places, both domestic and abroad. This book adds to the conversation that marriage is a changeable, permeable aspect of our society. The advice and options offer a new and important take on marriage for the 21st century and how to make it last or not with the changing times.

(Photo Credit: Seal Press)

Sunday, November 2, 2014

Sunday Snippets: Time Change

Bless you, extra hour of sleep. Fall change time, you are superior in every way.

 Protesters occupy St. Louis University & More from Ferguson & The lies being told

Mike Brown was murdered 64 days ago

This woman is a hero

She saved hundreds of women by performing abortions on them before their pregnancy was discovered, without having access to basic medical supplies. She became known as the “Angel of Auschwitz"


Racist fuckery

Utterly inspiring

Home Organization Advice from Marie Kondo

Very interesting organizational article (am I the only who enjoys reading these?)

Well, if this kitty isn't stinking cute...

In other news, what the fuck  This shit makes me hate Halloween. Without fail, every year, people come out with the most disgusting shit.

Fucking yes  Change the damn name!

She is a national treasure.


I hate spiders and this is adorable

Modern Relationship Love Notes

This is wonderful

Weird, I seem to have a lot of dust in my eyes

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Waldorf Auto Cross!

Loved seeing the cars race, including one very interesting car....

More information on Spirit of Lemons here and more photos here.

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Sunday Snippets: Three Day Weekend

I have a three day weekend courtesy of "Columbus Day." I hate that we can't just call it Racist Fuck Who Murdered People Day. Same damn thing.

Beautiful fall pictures & more

Welp, now I want to go to Norway

OMG adorable

Um, welp. There it is.


I first read about this three years ago, when the parents filed a class action suit. I couldn’t think about anything else for days. I couldn’t sleep. These scientists deliberately poisoned children. They lured families in with unusually low rents. They monitored the kids’ blood lead levels. And they didn’t do anything to help when those levels climbed and climbed.

Kinda awesome

Fuzzy things playing....yes

I love tiny fuzzy critters.

Aww, poor thing

ahahahaha, cute

This truth

Fucking people Really? That's the best use of your time?


Voter Registration Pics in #Ferguson

Very cool

Another murder in St. Louis

Remember Trayvon

The True Trayvon Martin: When he volunteered at a soup kitchen for. The first time, he was astounded by the US hunger crisis. #Trayvon

#VonDerrit Myers

Huge march in Ferguson this weekend & More

Thursday, October 9, 2014

Fall Clothing

I almost feel guilty, being excited about fall. Normally, at least in Maryland, we residents fall to our knees in gratitude for fall's arrival because the summer scorched every part of our bodies. However, this summer was much milder so fall seems almost intrusive, like we didn't really get a summer.

But I digress.

Some new items:

I wanted a good basic white shirt and so I tried one of Gap's work out shirts and so far, it's fit the bill. It wicks away sweat and is stretchy enough that I can tuck it into pants or later, once colder, pair with a sweater or a button up shirt underneath.

 I wanted to a pair of grey leggings, for dresses and skirts that would work well with my boots. Sadly, these did not do that. While they fit, the crotch sagged and even moving around my house, they slid down my hips considerably. They will be returned to Old Navy and so I'm on the hunt for a pair that works better.

In love with this new skirt. It flows wonderfully and I'm excited to pair it with my boots.

I did snag a new long sleeve black shirt from the thrift store and I'm still looking for a good pair of skinny jeans. I had a pair of nearly skinny, straight leg jeans, but they had decorative buttons that kept popping off and they were wearing a bit odd. I also need another pair of good basic jeans, as one of my beloved (two) pairs has started wearing in places that can't really be patched.

(Photo Credits: shirt &,

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Alley Cat Tuesdays: Littlefoot

When we moved to our house, we realized there were a lot of strays in the neighborhood. Bleeding heart that I am, I made a little kitty house out on our deck and lined up bowls for food. There was one little kitten that stole our hearts though.

He hung out with his momma, another Tuxedo and ran whenever we got close. Over time, he got more comfortable with us and we were able to coax him inside to play. He was so at home that he would walk in, eat from our other cat's bowl and then hop up on our couch for a nap.

We took him to get his shots and found he was about a year and a half old as of August 2014. He now loves playing with his sister (although it's debatable whether she loves being tackled as he pounces on her head) and is a complete lap kitty, who purrs louder than any cat I've ever met.

Littlefoot is on the right, with his sister, Midnight on the left. I have no idea what mischief he was getting into either.

He is a wonderful addition to our family and I have already woken up from a nap on the couch, covered in kitties, so I think he enjoys his home very much.