Tuesday, November 18, 2014

New Photos!

Fall is one of my favorite seasons to photograph, not only for the leaves but the sunsets are breathtaking.

More on the website!

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Sunday Snippets: Need something to read?

My latest book review, about marriage, here.

How wonderful  Beautiful. Treating people with dignity and respect isn't hard.

Awww! Otters are adorable.

Sweet kitty

OMG. Important pictures that are made of such truth.

I would love a vacation there

Love this man

I love penguins

This is repugnant

Heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time

that was the moment i realized women were the most important beings on this planet and we have to protect each other bc nobody else is going to

#ViolenceWillNotBeTolerated Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Book Review: The New I Do

"If nothing else, the dramatic changes in the marital landscape over the decades has proven that marriage can be an incredibly adaptable and inclusive institution-if it's called on to be so."

This is the bold statement which begins to sum up one of Seal Press's newest releases, "The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels". It's only a hair over 200 pages, yet it is packed with information. I underlined a phrase nearly every page and my copy is littered with post notes.

Authors Susan Pease Gadoua and Vicki Larson offer ways to reshape and redo marriage since nearly half of all contemporary marriages still end in divorce.They believe that "rather than continue to encourage people to cram themselves into an old model that isn't working for many....we want to acknowledge what's already happening and encourage you to think about new ways to marry."

New ways indeed. They offer several options: the Starter Marriage, Companionship Marriage, Parenting Marriage, Living Alone Together Marriage, Covenant Marriage, Safety Marriage and the Open Marriage. Gadoua and Larson lay out the pros and cons of each option, along with any relevant history or origins. They also make it clear that while some partnerships may end, to view the marriage as failed would be a mistake. The authors believe "marriage should be considered 'successful' by what it has accomplished, not by how long it lasts".

These choices show that there are many ways to do marriage and while your neighbor's or your best friend's marriage may not look like yours, if it works for them, who's to judge? One aspect that is highlighted throughout the book is this idea of a "real" marriage. Many people have a stereotypical idea of what a "real" marriage looks like: "Too often we are presented with the false choice between a life-long loving marriage and a lonely, un married life. But those are far from the only options." And the authors include several real life interviews from people, already adapting these marriages to their own lives.

A chapter on pre-nuptial agreements rounds out the book and it's a good place to end. One of the biggest themes of the book is about communication. Very few marriages survive broken communication and unresolved mis-understandings. The book states that "there's a huge disconnect in how people conceptualize marriage and how they act once they're in it." Pre-nuptial agreements aside, to begin to implement any of these marriage options requires a lot of communication. Even if you choose none of these marriages, opening the discussion about these options and what they offer could be beneficial to a partnership.

Marriage and the many ways it is included in peoples' lives are always being analyzed and rehashed, least of all with gay marriage becoming legal in many places, both domestic and abroad. This book adds to the conversation that marriage is a changeable, permeable aspect of our society. The advice and options offer a new and important take on marriage for the 21st century and how to make it last or not with the changing times.

(Photo Credit: Seal Press)

Sunday, November 2, 2014

Sunday Snippets: Time Change

Bless you, extra hour of sleep. Fall change time, you are superior in every way.

 Protesters occupy St. Louis University & More from Ferguson & The lies being told

Mike Brown was murdered 64 days ago

This woman is a hero

She saved hundreds of women by performing abortions on them before their pregnancy was discovered, without having access to basic medical supplies. She became known as the “Angel of Auschwitz"


Racist fuckery

Utterly inspiring

Home Organization Advice from Marie Kondo

Very interesting organizational article (am I the only who enjoys reading these?)

Well, if this kitty isn't stinking cute...

In other news, what the fuck  This shit makes me hate Halloween. Without fail, every year, people come out with the most disgusting shit.

Fucking yes  Change the damn name!

She is a national treasure.


I hate spiders and this is adorable

Modern Relationship Love Notes

This is wonderful

Weird, I seem to have a lot of dust in my eyes

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Waldorf Auto Cross!

Loved seeing the cars race, including one very interesting car....

More information on Spirit of Lemons here and more photos here.

Sunday, October 12, 2014

Sunday Snippets: Three Day Weekend

I have a three day weekend courtesy of "Columbus Day." I hate that we can't just call it Racist Fuck Who Murdered People Day. Same damn thing.

Beautiful fall pictures & more

Welp, now I want to go to Norway

OMG adorable

Um, welp. There it is.


I first read about this three years ago, when the parents filed a class action suit. I couldn’t think about anything else for days. I couldn’t sleep. These scientists deliberately poisoned children. They lured families in with unusually low rents. They monitored the kids’ blood lead levels. And they didn’t do anything to help when those levels climbed and climbed.

Kinda awesome

Fuzzy things playing....yes

I love tiny fuzzy critters.

Aww, poor thing

ahahahaha, cute

This truth

Fucking people Really? That's the best use of your time?


Voter Registration Pics in #Ferguson

Very cool

Another murder in St. Louis

Remember Trayvon

The True Trayvon Martin: When he volunteered at a soup kitchen for. The first time, he was astounded by the US hunger crisis. #Trayvon

#VonDerrit Myers

Huge march in Ferguson this weekend & More

Thursday, October 9, 2014

Fall Clothing

I almost feel guilty, being excited about fall. Normally, at least in Maryland, we residents fall to our knees in gratitude for fall's arrival because the summer scorched every part of our bodies. However, this summer was much milder so fall seems almost intrusive, like we didn't really get a summer.

But I digress.

Some new items:

I wanted a good basic white shirt and so I tried one of Gap's work out shirts and so far, it's fit the bill. It wicks away sweat and is stretchy enough that I can tuck it into pants or later, once colder, pair with a sweater or a button up shirt underneath.

 I wanted to a pair of grey leggings, for dresses and skirts that would work well with my boots. Sadly, these did not do that. While they fit, the crotch sagged and even moving around my house, they slid down my hips considerably. They will be returned to Old Navy and so I'm on the hunt for a pair that works better.

In love with this new skirt. It flows wonderfully and I'm excited to pair it with my boots.

I did snag a new long sleeve black shirt from the thrift store and I'm still looking for a good pair of skinny jeans. I had a pair of nearly skinny, straight leg jeans, but they had decorative buttons that kept popping off and they were wearing a bit odd. I also need another pair of good basic jeans, as one of my beloved (two) pairs has started wearing in places that can't really be patched.

(Photo Credits: shirt & skirt-Gap.com, leggings-OldNavy.com)

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Alley Cat Tuesdays: Littlefoot

When we moved to our house, we realized there were a lot of strays in the neighborhood. Bleeding heart that I am, I made a little kitty house out on our deck and lined up bowls for food. There was one little kitten that stole our hearts though.

He hung out with his momma, another Tuxedo and ran whenever we got close. Over time, he got more comfortable with us and we were able to coax him inside to play. He was so at home that he would walk in, eat from our other cat's bowl and then hop up on our couch for a nap.

We took him to get his shots and found he was about a year and a half old as of August 2014. He now loves playing with his sister (although it's debatable whether she loves being tackled as he pounces on her head) and is a complete lap kitty, who purrs louder than any cat I've ever met.

Littlefoot is on the right, with his sister, Midnight on the left. I have no idea what mischief he was getting into either.

He is a wonderful addition to our family and I have already woken up from a nap on the couch, covered in kitties, so I think he enjoys his home very much.

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Sunday Snippets: It's been a year

I didn't quite realize how very complicated, trying and plain out hard this year has been. I wasn't expecting it but every day was something new. Last week, we came home to some house issues that we are still resolving. I'm going to actively try to carve out quiet time for the rest of this year and next year.

Adorable Poor fox

Gimme They are so beautiful. It would make day to day living hard, but the peaceful and simple life you could live?


One of my favorite movies

#Ferguson Updates & These awesome kids (breaking hearts that they have to step up and say this) & This is so sad.

Just in case you were unclear about this situation It's sexual harassment and it's illegal.

Disgusting that this is done But like most things in racist America, not surprised.

hahahaha, because cats & awww, kitties

Well, damn

Cool Science Facts

Beautiful imagery

I would love to explore some of these

I love seeing words like this

Feels. Poetry is amazing.

Gah, I love Saint Bernards!

#Ferguson 9/24/2014 & More

How cool is this?

Her innovative Bump Mark label is filled with a solid, set form of gelatin. When the label is smooth, the food is fresh. When a consumer starts to feel bumps, that’s a sure sign that eating what’s in the package could make you sick.

Adorable. I love dogs.

Bless this teacher

He's also looking to provide support for parents through free dinners and educational events, like resume-writing and finance workshops, at the school in the evenings.

For Callahan, one of the most rewarding part of the backpack program is the way that it's drawn people together -- he and his wife, members of the school community -- in their efforts to help support local children in need. But ultimately, there's no greater reward than seeing his students grow and learn and thrive.

Monday, September 15, 2014

Adventures in Homeownership: Winter Prep List

Since the rumors are flying that this coming winter will put last winter to shame on the East Coast, the husband and I devised a list to prep for (action items/things to stock up on/etc.)

*Disclaimer-I actually enjoy snow and the winter season. Snow is fluffy. I like fluffy things. However, when it's regularly below 20 degrees and my parts are actually in danger of freezing off and we get weekly snowstorms, I have a problem.

 (Our driveway last winter. It looked like this from December to early April.)

Action Items:

-Insulate water heater pipes (our water heater doesn't get that warm, so the pipes are the better bet to cover)

-Clean out gutters (especially if we get hit with the snow they are calling for)

-Trim trees (see cleaning gutters-not trying to have my roof cave in)

-Purchase cheap toboggan (in case we need to move things around our backyard)

-Make a cover for outdoor kitties food dishes (I worry about the outdoor kitties who roam around)

-Getting fort materials (we have high ceilings and with baseboard electric heat, it costs a fortune to heat half of the house. So we are going to make a small fort that we can set up in the living room and just use a space heater to heat.)

-Which car’s alternator has most power/what can we run on an alternator? (We can use our cars as back up power sources in the event of an outage.)

-Test refrigerator in garage (see outages)

-Tinting on upper windows in living room (help with heat escaping)

-Seal front door/reset (our front door/screen were never hung properly so heat leaks out)

-Turn off rear water spigot valve in subfloor (to prevent pipes from freezing)

-Demolish hill by shed by culling sand for cars (there is a small hill of dirt/sand that was just dumped by previous owners so to kill two birds, we need sand in our cars anyway for ice/snowy drives)

-Make door drafts with old socks for sliding glass door (keeping out the cold! Plus, I can get old socks at the thrift store.)

-Finish t-shirt quilt (it's multi-layered, so it will be great for keeping us warm)

-Finish adding lining to living room curtains (we need to add lining to four more panels and that will help insulate the living room)

-Hang three sets of curtains in the husband's office (all windows have old metal slat blinds, which don't provide much help against temperature loss-we have two sets already, just need to take 10 minutes to hang them)

-Lay down compost in garden areas (prep for spring)

-Fix roof leaks (there are two small leaks that despite investigation, we can't find the source. I aim to change that.)

-Make another box for the outdoor kitties (we have one plastic tub that I cut a hole in and lined with a blanket. The kitties seemed to like it, so I plan to make another.)

-Thermally isolate guest bathroom or cover window with mylar/emergency blanket and outside wall with a packing blanket (for insulation)

Items to Buy:

-I inventoried our fall/winter gear and I have a small list of items we need: new snowboots, a new parka and some more long sleeve shirts.

-Get some solar panels and a battery storage system up and running (for outages)

-Stock up on frozen & canned meats (we have a grill outside we can use)

-Get curtain liner for office window (I had to tuck in my curtain last winter because it was very drafty. We sealed it with caulk, but just for added insulation.)

-Stock up: rice/pasta/beans/canned soup/ice

-Fill freezer with extra bread/butter (empty fridges/freezers use more electricity)

-Get two space heaters (infinitely better to heat small spaces than our old baseboard heaters)

-Stock up on toiletries for us & the cats (shampoo/conditioner/soap/vitamins/extra food/litter-better than having to run out in the middle of a snowstorm for toilet paper)